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emergency-trolls asked: so you think trans women cant use female spaces right? do you think trans men should be allowed use male spaces?

notcisjustwoman:

emergency-trolls:

notcisjustwoman:

troll elsewhere.

i literally asked a question and you cant even answer me

1) work on mitigating your sense of entitlement. you are not entitled to my time or my energy.

2) I deal with LITERALLY hundreds of trolls a week, and you sent me an ask under the name “emergency-trolls.”

3) “won’t” isn’t the same as “can’t”

That’s not an issue for women to discern. If men don’t want trans men in their spaces, that’s their business. It doesn’t impact me one way or another. 

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http://jacqueleefrell.tumblr.com/post/100574694795/daisydeadhead-secret-radfem-account-the

daisydeadhead:

secret-radfem-account:

The focus is always on lesbians not wanting to fuck trans women.

It’s never gay men not wanting to fuck trans men. It’s never straight men not wanting fuck trans women. It’s only ever made about them when this point is brought up.

And you know…

They  don’t take on the right wingers, the Duggars or Tea Partiers because THEY ARE MEN or they have men. You have to remember, that at its core these MRAtrans are failed men. They fail at patriarchy and seek refuge in becoming a woman because they think it’s a space they can dominate. They attack radfems more than they do lib fems because more radfems are lesbians and don’t have men to defend them. These jackasses would rather run through hell in a gasoline thong than confront another  man. They literally pee their panties at the thought. Basically, these guys are a bunch of sniveling balless cowards. 

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Anonymous asked: "That means that on average, trans women were raised with male privilege." Does this mean you agree that some trans women don't have male privilege, or at least not very much, such as passing early transitioners? Some start as early as 6 or 7 (or earlier) and while it's a different story whether this is morally acceptable or not, I just don't see how such early transitioners have male privilege in any meaningful way, even if they were born with a penis.

snowflakeespecial:

I hate hypotheticals because I don’t think they’re helpful in understanding the world. But here’s what I will say. When I watched the videos of transkid Jazz with her parents, I couldn’t help reading everyone’s behavior as “Look at how special our son is.” When little girls are celebrated, it’s usually because they’re behaving in a way that pleases everyone - think child beauty pageants, little girls doing gymnastics, etc. When boys are celebrated, it’s more likely because they’re different and unusual. As a culture, we celebrate outcast and outlier males because being an outlier is a male prerogative (think: the anti-hero, the lone wolf, the genius who failed algebra etc).

In contrast, when I’ve seen videos of ftm transkids, the parents seem to be doing a lot less celebration and a lot more justification. There’s a lot more focus on “my child is normal now” and a lot less of the “how special”.

And what I’m saying is that however you want to dress up what’s happening in the language of gender, a person born male is being celebrated for being exceptional and different, and a person born female is being normalized by claims that they are actually male. And when you look at it like that, it seems kind of like status-quo male privilege and status-quo sexism to me!

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Anonymous asked: about black womanhood, I had a white person imply that black trans people have it easier because our "sexes are already so similar" in a convo about laverne so. it's also consistent with how black lesbians get labeled Butch who would be Femme if they were white but get seen as masculine just for being black.

marktwainsheadonablanket:

Your analysis is precisely on point.  I didn’t put those pieces together myself.

(I assume this is in reference to something I reblogged from roslynholcomb​ about Laverne Cox.  I’ll reblog it after this.)

Of course, because yanno, there is no such thing as a black woman. We’re all a bunch of she-beasts needing a oversized ham fisted abomination of a man to show us how to be a woman. 

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http://appropriately-inappropriate.tumblr.com/post/100459647360/celestia-appropriately-inappropriate

appropriately-inappropriate:

celestia:

celestia:

appropriately-inappropriate:

babyradical:

s0ft-h0m0:

Yes, yes, it’s very sad that you’re attracted to men. There, there, blow your nose on your marriage certificate. Bundle up with your significant other’s income, I’m sure it’ll keep you warm at night.

this…

I don’t have the energy to respond to every tiny bit of this but your debating technique makes me so angry, you purposefully misquoted me to twist my words and I can’t believe you’re acting like I’m pressuring you into CARING ABOUT ABUSE VICTIMS

If I have to pressure you into caring then you genuinely don’t care.

I see, when I’m using it on assholes in the TRANS community you’re all for it, but the second it gets turned on something you say, I’m the alpha cunt*.

Grow up, Celestia. I don’t need to misquote you, you say plenty of offensively absurd shit all by yourself.

This insinuation that I don’t care about domestic abuse victims is an one of them.

*and yes, that slur is intentional

This is surprising, I had no idea there were shelters that did’t allow lesbians or that people don’t believe there can be DV in a lesbian relationship. I worked in DV and we all knew about it first hand. Indeed, some of the worst cases I’ve seen have been in gay relationships. And all the shelters I’ve dealt with accepted lesbians, and that was in Alabama. I can’t remember any ever asking about sexual orientation. I swear, I’m continually amazed by the stupidity of some people. 

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Dumb As Helll

Yep, that’s all she wrote. IMO this is the funniest (and pithiest) review I’ve ever gotten. The disgust in her tone is so clear that I laugh every time I see that review.

Dumb As Helll

Yep, that’s all she wrote. IMO this is the funniest (and pithiest) review I’ve ever gotten. The disgust in her tone is so clear that I laugh every time I see that review.

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Anonymous asked: my mother gave me advice about how to induce a miscarriage because shes so worried about reproductive rights in this country. from what she told me it seems simple (in the sense of what you do, not psychologically) hope it never comes to that though

appropriately-inappropriate:

Jesus Christ.

I thought we’d gotten past this in the seventies. What a world.

Welp, only way to fix it is to do it, so don’t forget to vote, donate and agitate.
Otherwise, it’s gonna get a lot Gilead south of the border.

There’s a site called Wombs of Our Own that I link on my blog that gives women instructions as to how to use abortifacient drugs. I know this is information we will need in the very near future. I’m almost in menopause and don’t have any actual daughters, but I refuse to leave in a world where women are forced into the type of existence my mother lived in. Forced to give birth to children she couldn’t feed without tolerating bullshit from men. So for my metaphorical daughters I will always be a source of this information. And I have passed the hat many times to fund abortions and will continue to do so. 

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http://un-sweet-tea.tumblr.com/post/100420201835/appropriately-inappropriate-babyradical

appropriately-inappropriate:

appropriately-inappropriate:

babyradical:

s0ft-h0m0:

Yes, yes, it’s very sad that you’re attracted to men. There, there, blow your nose on your marriage certificate. Bundle up with your significant other’s income, I’m sure it’ll keep you warm at night.

this is a stupid post…

Yeah.

While there’s a lot of lip-service paid, women are still turned away. The biggest shelter service, and the best known, tend to be run by The Salvation Army, and they’re hugely homophobic.

There’s the Michelle Wang case out of Chicago, “when She Was Bad” by Patricia Pearson brings it up. “Lesbians, Gays and the Empowerment Experience” by Carol Thorpe Tully talks about a lesbian who was denied a bed at a domestic violence shelter due to her sexuality, returned to the home and was murdered by her partner the same night (pg 193).

There’s more, if you look, but it is a problem. It’s one thing to say “yes, this is a welcoming environment!” and another to say “you’re welcome here”.

Lesbians get a lot of the former, and not a lot of the latter.

The Salvation Army is about as shitty as an organization can get. They wouldn’t help my mom, a widow with five children because she was black. And they fired my girlfriend because she writes romance novels. For all intents and purposes they’re a freaking cult. 

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merlintookmylife:

shamelesslyunladylike:

spoopynightmaregoddess:

lordterramine:

SEE, I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY EVERYBODY HAS SUCH A PROBLEM WITH FLIRTING. IT MEANS THE PERSON THINKS YOU’RE ATTRACTIVE, MAYBE TAKE IT AS A COMPLIMENT INSTEAD OF GETTING BUTTHURT OVER NOTHING?

IT IS NOT FLIRTING, christ almighty.
Do not say shit like this, it is incredibly misogynistic and dismissive of the fear that women live with walking down the street. I have experienced street harassment so violent and predatory that I get panic attacks when men catcall me. Should I still take it as a compliment??

Proof that trans women don’t know jack shit about what it means to be a woman. No woman gets “happy” because she got catcalled. We think “oh my god, I hope he doesn’t follow me and rape me”.

But it’s understandable that she got a bit happy, she was recognised as a female in public by strangers for the first time. The OP isn’t saying that she wanted the catcall and she certainly isn’t saying that catcalling is okay. Transwomen are women too, even if they begin to face feminism struggles later in life than other women, they have faced a whole different type of struggle up the that stage.

Really? She doesn’t think it’s okay? Look at the last panel with the big happy eyes and tell me that’s an unhappy face.
Paris Lees, another trans woman, said the same thing, that cat-calling was an affirmation.
It’s a trend.
And it’s funny you should mention “she’s happy to be seen as female!” How curious, that being “seen as female” is basically being seen as an object for the male gaze, and for men to pass comment on as though we existed for their own pleasure.
You said it and didn’t even realize you were doing it.

Cat-calling, rape who knows what the hell else is affirming to trans women. Of course it is, BECAUSE THEY’RE MEN!!!

appropriately-inappropriate:

merlintookmylife:

shamelesslyunladylike:

spoopynightmaregoddess:

lordterramine:

SEE, I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY EVERYBODY HAS SUCH A PROBLEM WITH FLIRTING. IT MEANS THE PERSON THINKS YOU’RE ATTRACTIVE, MAYBE TAKE IT AS A COMPLIMENT INSTEAD OF GETTING BUTTHURT OVER NOTHING?

IT IS NOT FLIRTING, christ almighty.

Do not say shit like this, it is incredibly misogynistic and dismissive of the fear that women live with walking down the street. I have experienced street harassment so violent and predatory that I get panic attacks when men catcall me. Should I still take it as a compliment??

Proof that trans women don’t know jack shit about what it means to be a woman. No woman gets “happy” because she got catcalled. We think “oh my god, I hope he doesn’t follow me and rape me”.

But it’s understandable that she got a bit happy, she was recognised as a female in public by strangers for the first time. The OP isn’t saying that she wanted the catcall and she certainly isn’t saying that catcalling is okay. Transwomen are women too, even if they begin to face feminism struggles later in life than other women, they have faced a whole different type of struggle up the that stage.

Really? She doesn’t think it’s okay? Look at the last panel with the big happy eyes and tell me that’s an unhappy face.

Paris Lees, another trans woman, said the same thing, that cat-calling was an affirmation.

It’s a trend.

And it’s funny you should mention “she’s happy to be seen as female!”
How curious, that being “seen as female” is basically being seen as an object for the male gaze, and for men to pass comment on as though we existed for their own pleasure.

You said it and didn’t even realize you were doing it.

Cat-calling, rape who knows what the hell else is affirming to trans women. Of course it is, BECAUSE THEY’RE MEN!!!

(Source: transgirlnextdoor)